Resiliency tools

Resilient youth draw on three sets of tools to help them cope with and adapt to the stresses they face, learn from challenging experiences, and become stronger and better prepared to manage problems in the future.* 

“I have”:

  • People around me I trust and who love me, no matter what
  • People who set limits for me so I know when to stop before there is danger or trouble
  • People who show me how to do things right by the way they do things
  • People who want me to learn on my own
  • People who help me when I am sick, in danger, or need to learn

 “I am”:

  • A person people can like and love
  • Glad to do nice things for others and show my concern
  • Respectful of myself and others
  • Willing to be responsible for what I do
  • Sure things will be all right

 “I can”:

  • Talk to others about things that frighten me or bother me
  • Find ways to solve problems that I face
  • Control myself when I feel like doing something not right or dangerous
  • Figure out when it is a good time to talk to someone or to take action
  • Find someone to help me when I need it

Young people need tools in at least two of these categories to be resilient.  The factors and conditions in the middle and outer circles on the Resilience Map help young people to build these tools.

*Source: Grotberg, E. H. (n.d.) A Guide to Promoting Resilience in Children: Strengthening the Human Spirit.  Retrieved from http://resilnet.uiuc.edu/library/grotb95b.html.